Borderline Personality Disorder, or BPD, has long been considered by the professionals who work with and treat these individuals as a long, hard and difficult struggle. This process is difficult for all who are involved. Here is a succinct life story of a young woman who suffers from BPD, realistically told through her mother’s eye. It is not an easy read but importantly A Moth To The Flame, provides an opportunity for all who read it to deepen their understanding and compassion for individuals who suffer from the illness and their families who are impacted and changed by it. Therein lies the hope for new, better, and more effective treatment.
About Author - Debbie Sands
Debbie Sands was born in London, England and immigrated to Canada with my parents when I was seventeen. She attended Trinity College at the University of Toronto, and emerged with a degree in French and English. She became a secretary for a large corporation and met her future husband, Ed, not long after that. In 1980, we moved to Alberta, where he set up a chiropractic office, and they raised a family in Okotoks. Inspired by their daughter, Amy, they got involved in amateur theatre and still pursue it as a hobby. She has worked in many administrative jobs, but has always wanted to write. They continue to live in Okotoks, and enjoy theatre, music and travel.
IQW –
Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD has long been considered by the professionals who work with and treat these individuals as a long, hard and difficult struggle. This process is difficult for all who are involved. Here is a succinct life story of a young woman who suffers from BPD, realistically told through her mother’s eye. It is not an easy read but importantly A Moth To The Flame, provides an opportunity for all who read it to deepen their understanding and compassion for individuals who suffer from the illness and their families who are impacted and changed by it. Therein lies the hope for new, better, and more effective treatment.
L. Mark Peterson, LMSW
Co-author of the Adult, Adolescent & Child Psychotherapy Treatment Planners (2011, John Wiley & Sons Inc., NJ)
IQW –
Rarely do I begin a book with the intention of completing it in one day. “A Moth to the Flame” was that one book. Heartfelt, sad, moving, shocking and funny are just some of the words that I would use to describe a very difficult subject that author Debbie Sands shares with her readers. I have now passed the book along to a few of my friends who will benefit both practically and emotionally from Debbie’s words, however, anyone reading this book will come away with understanding and compassion for those who suffer with BPD. Their daily struggle and the struggle faced by the people who love them is all too real and is brought to life by Amy’s journey.
S. Murphy
IQW –
A beautifully written and hard-hitting account of one family’s struggle with their daughter’s Borderline Personality Disorder. Debbie Sands has done an incredible job of telling her daughter’s painful story with love and honesty, recounting the havoc which BPD wreaked upon her entire family, her search for answers, and her journey as a parent. Highly recommended.
Amazon reviewer
IQW –
I began reading the book last night and finished it this morning; very well written, riveting and thoroughly amazing to get a glimpse into what you all went thru. Mental illness is heartbreaking for all involved, and this book will no doubt give any who read it greater sympathy and understanding. Kudos for being brave & open enough to write the book.
Judy L.
IQW –
“I found myself unable to put the book down, hoping and praying for a “happy ending” although knowing that sadly, this would not be the case. This book is real and raw and very brave and honest. I found myself asking “what would I have done?” If faced with similar choices, as well as the feeling of “There but for the Grace of God go I” as this could be ANY Family!! The Sands family is an average middle class home with two professional parents raising their children in ” Anywhere, North America” … their story could be my story, your story or anyone’s story… The Author does such a brilliant job of letting us know who Amy was; a beautiful and brilliant, loving and dynamic individual who also struggled with inner demons and turmoil. The book gives insight and hope to those who may also be facing a mental illness, such as BPD or those who love and care for someone who is. A gage to how good a book is often whether or not you wanted it to end, how you feel after reading it, and if by doing so, it has enriched your life. I feel “A Moth to the Flame” does all of these things!
FMaione, May 25 2016 (excerpt)
Tina Crossfield –
“Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD has long been considered by the professionals who work with and treat these individuals as a long, hard and difficult struggle. This process is difficult for all who are involved. Here is a succinct life story of a young woman who suffers from BPD, realistically told through her mother’s eye. It is not an easy read but importantly A Moth To The Flame, provides an opportunity for all who read it to deepen their understanding and compassion for individuals who suffer from the illness and their families who are impacted and changed by it. Therein lies the hope for new, better, and more effective treatment.”
Mark Peterson, LMSW
Co-author of the Adult, Adolescent & Child Psychotherapy Treatment Planners (2011, John Wiley & Sons Inc., NJ)
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